Sunday, 23 October 2016

Little Life Lessons I've Learnt From Drag Race.

I love RuPaul's Drag Race, although I'm one of those poor folk who only has Netflix and therefore has only seen up to series 7. Even so, I feel like this show and it's fabulous queens have taught me a lot...

1. Make an entrance. 


No one's going to forget Laganja after she death dropped her way in the door. I'm not saying you need to whip this move out next time you're at a party, but clinging to the walls and avoiding eye contact isn't going to have too many people desperate to start up a conversation. Head up, back straight, stroll in there with confidence - you'll have them eating out of your palm in no time.

2. If you're going to read someone, be funny.


Serena Chacha talking smack to Jade Jolie about age, and getting under everyone's skin? Annoying. Bianca Del Rio calling Adore stupid? Hilarious. It's all in the delivery. Every season, we see some of the bitchiest queens coming completely unstuck with the Reading is Fundamental mini-challenge. If you're going to say something mean, at least add a bit of humour so that even the victim is laughing, otherwise you're just being rude.

3. You should always be yourself.


Not everyone's going to get what you're all about, and even if they do, not everyone's going to like it. How many of these wonderful queens have stories about being rejected by loved ones because of the fact they do drag? And yet look at them now. You don't need to worry about what anyone else thinks of you; as long as you're doing what makes you happy, you're on the right track.

4. It's okay to be ambitious.

It's not the worst thing in the world to know what you're capable of, and to go after it. Being ambitious isn't a bad thing. There are so many possibilities out there, but hard work is integral. Knowing what you want and pursuing it doesn't make you selfish, it makes you determined. Being successful is possible, as long as you're motivated and willing to work hard.

5. Relationships don't have to define you.


Remember when Alaska rocked up to season 5 and was immediately defined by being the boyfriend of season 4 winner Sharon Needles? That pissed me off. She was written off before she even began as a poor imitation of Sharon. Alaska went on to be one of my favourite contestants, proving that who you love doesn't change who you are, and that your own individuality will shine through.

6. Success is the best revenge.


Sometimes people are dicks to you. Is that any excuse to be a dick back? Nah. Look at Jinkx Monsoon - Roxxxy was not her biggest fan, and made that really very obvious. Did that stop Jinkx? No - in fact it was all just "water off a duck's back" and she rocked it regardless. Roxxxy was probably spitting feathers, and her little speech on Untucked about how either she, Detox or Alaska would beat Jinkx must sound a bit stupid in hindsight.

7. Sometimes you just have to spill the tea.


Every now and again, someone's bound to get up in your face and as much as you want to bite your tongue, you just can't anymore. Someone has to put this person back in their place, and it's going to be you. Just make sure that everything you say in anger is truthful, and that you can back it up when you calm down. You might even inadvertently do them a favour.

8. Don't be scared to show your vulnerabilities.


Remember when Ongina and Trinity K. Bonet revealed that they were HIV-positive, or when Monica Beverly Hillz announced she was transgender? Remember how everyone was so supportive and thought they were really brave to do so? Maybe your issues aren't quite as serious as those, but god knows we all have something we're sometimes worried about sharing with those closest to us. No one will think any less of you for being honest.

9. You can choose your own family.


Lots of these queens have had a hard time with their biological families, and many haven't spoken to relatives for years due to their sexuality or lifestyle choices. The beautiful thing about life is that you can choose your own family, something that Drag Race proves perfectly. Yes, your friends might make for a slightly dysfunctional unit, but they will love you unconditionally - as if you were blood relatives.

10. Keep it real.


There's a lot of bullshit flying around these days, and it can be hard not to get caught up in it from time to time. Don't let drama or an ego carry you off, remember what's real and important, and don't take everything so seriously. At the end of the day, it's probably not even that important.

10. Keep it fierce.


Be bold, take risks, follow your heart. Be unapologetic about how you live your life. Just like the drag stars, you are a queen, unstoppable and fierce

11. Don't be so hard on yourself.


Sometimes we all are just way too hard on ourselves. It's so much easier to give up before you've started than it is to try and fail. All this does though is rob us of opportunities. We need a little bit more self belief and a pinch more confidence. You can do this, you will smash it. Don't let that little voice inside your head stop you from doing what you want.

12. You can be a cheerleader for your competition.


Jujubee and Raven, Adore and Bianca... sometimes on Drag Race you'll see unlikely friendships strike up. You know that these girls are cheering each other on, even though they are in direct competition. Being rivals for the top prize doesn't need to equal jealousy and bitchiness. Fact is, you don't need to see other people's success as an indication that you have failed. Other people succeeding can be your motivation. Particularly in the blogging community, it'd be nice if we could all stand up and cheer each other on.

13. Mistakes are a fact of life.

Literally everybody fucks up, it's just a fact of life. Look at Latrice Royale, who had previously spent time in prison. You can't beat yourself up over the mistakes you've made; if you can't change them, all you can do is accept them. Apologise if you need to, but don't hold on to it forever. Get back up and try again.

14. Don't get stuck in the past.


While it's tempting to spend all your time feeling wistful and nostalgic for the past, all you're doing is wasting the present. At some point you have to move on, and start working on where you're going, rather than where you've been. As I said above - if you can't change it, you need to accept it. There's not much point dwelling on what might have been - go out there and find out what's to come!

15. Always strive for your full potential.


It's tempting to just sit on the couch and spend your entire life watching Jeremy Kyle (believe me, this is a constant struggle for me). But when you get down to it, you're capable of so much more. I know I'm guilty of squandering my potential, and I'm sure a few of you out there are too. Aim a little higher, be brave and don't worry about taking a risk. Working hard and taking that leap could change everything.

16. And the big one...


Can I get an amen up in here?

Has Rupaul taught you any life lessons?

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  1. Love it! The last one is something I find myself saying to people and then when they haven't seen it they wonder why I put that voice on... haha. Great post x

  2. This show has taught me so much about life. "Not today Satan" and "When in doubt freak 'em out" are now daily phrases. Love this post xx

  3. I really need to start watching this show - just the gifs on this post cracked me up so I think it would be right up my street! This is such a great post idea - well done for pulling it off! 🙌🏼

    Abbey ✨


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